For anyone in a relationship, learning to communicate effectively is the surest way to have a long-lasting and healthy relationship. It starts with both partners having similar goals in the relationship but that’s not enough here are a few things to keep in mind as you work toward your common goals and communicate effectively.
Don’t stuff your feelings. If something is important to you, the speak up. It doesn’t have to be a fight, but unvoiced issues tend to keep festering. You can be respectful while you communicate. As you share your feelings, thoughts, and ideas, keep room and space for your partner to be able to do the same. Having mutual respect is vital in a relationship. Couples’ counselors have identified one single trait that spells trouble for a couple in the future and that is eye-rolling. It’s the surest sign of disrespect.
In addition to being respectful, be supportive of your partner. Sometimes you will collaborate on an idea, sometimes you will get your way, and other times you will give in a little and come to a better decision for both of you. Be sure that in all interactions, you work to support one another and build each other up. No good relationship moves forward when you begin putting your partner down just to make yourself feel better.
Make your boundaries clear. This is perfectly appropriate in all relationships and can give both you and your partner space to maintain your individuality while still being a couple. Boundaries are not designed to limit what you are allowed to do in a relationship. Healthy couples can have their own passwords, their own friends, even their own interests. While it is good to share as many interests as possible, you are still an individual. Do not limit one another’s individuality.
Making all these expectations clear is vital in a healthy relationship. Communication is essential at all times. No one is a mind reader and it is unfair to expect your partner to read yours. As children we are encouraged to “use your words” and that advice works very well for adults as well.