It’s fabulous when you think you’ve found the magic one, that partner of your dreams. But without a little bit of consistent effort, it won’t continue to be perfect. Here are a few suggestions to stay happy together as a couple.
There is a reason you couldn’t resist wanting to go to bed together. Couples who go to bed at the same time tend to stay together. It’s OK if one of you is an earlier riser, you can get up and do whatever it is you need to or want to do. But always go to bed together.
Share one another’s interests. I’m not always excited about going to the hardware store or to the computer store, but I make myself accompany my partner because he enjoys those encounters. In turn, he is more willing to go into a paper and pen store, or to an art store. By respecting the interests of one another, we validate what is important to each of us. This builds strong relationships.
Touch one another, whenever possible. When you are walking together, hold hands and walk side by side. Moving ahead to see things should never take precedence over the relationships you have with each other.
Always trust one another and be willing to forgive. Anytime you have an argument, forget being right and focus on moving forward together. Being right can be darn lonely. And afterward, remember the things your partner has done right rather than the things they’ve done wrong. Focusing on the negative brings more negativity into your relationship.
Be sure to hug one another every chance you get. Kiss each other hello and goodbye. Say “I love you” and mean it.
Taking things like this for granted is the first step to having problems later in life. But by lovingly acknowledging one another, we give each other the opportunity to overcome the challenges we face as we battle the world. It sure is nice to know someone’s got your back.
Happy couples do things differently than unhappy couples. They support and validate one another. They work hard to show a united front to the world around them. Any one of these ideas might be new to you, but when you do it every single day for a month, you have developed a very healthy habit that contributes to you staying together.