There are a lot of people who move through life, putting one foot in front of the other without any thought to whether they even like the life they’re leading. They work for a paycheck to pay for food and a roof over their heads. That’s what they saw their parents do, that’s what they figure they are supposed to do.
Do you live that way? Do you know what kind of a life you really want to live?
Pay attention to the things that interest you. They are clues to your innermost passions and abilities. They can provide clues to your dreams and desires. Where do you go when you daydream? These types of thoughts are often shoved far back in a closet as we shake ourselves back to a state of awareness and the frenetic activity of our lives.
Why do we do this?
It takes courage to change the direction of our lives. If we don’t have the courage to seek out what it is we believe will make us happy, we will never be able to live as authentic a life as we might like. Here are a few suggestions to help you begin to make small changes that may eventually lead to a bigger change toward living a life you love.
Avoid negative people. When we spend time around people who are always complaining, we get sucked into their negativity, their drama, and our dreams disappear. One client I worked with, Amy, said she had a job at a diner and she loved all the people she worked with. But she had aspirations that would take her far beyond working in a diner, and one day she realized that until she broke away from the chains that bound her to the people stuck working in the diner, she would never realize her dreams.
Amy quit working at the diner, much to the dismay of all her friends and coworkers there. They could not understand why she was willing to leave the relative safety of a steady job. Once she left, she began to see just how toxic all that negativity had been to her. “I’ve moved way beyond that diner, but most of the people I worked with are still there, still complaining about the same things.”
Do you have to know for a fact that moving toward your dream is absolutely the right thing for you? No! There are no guarantees in this life. Self-doubt is part of living. Have you ever had to take a road detour because of roadwork or an accident? Did you doubt that you would be able to reach your destination in a timely way? It’s no different in life when you decide to take a different path.
Look for role models and read inspirational books. Most people who intend to change their lives have found that by reading something every single day was the most important step they took in changing their lives. A regular diet of motivation certainly yields results.