You’ve met the naturally happy person. They always seem to be smiling, but not in a strained or out to impress kind of way. They are simply content.
My younger brother often said, “We’re rich, we just don’t have any money.” And he was absolutely right. While we never had much money, we did manage to enjoy our life together, frequently laughing, talking, playing games, going to the beach. We never thought much about what we didn’t have, we just focused on what we did have.
As I continued through life, I realized that living a happy life doesn’t come naturally to everyone, and even if you once lived a happy life you might forget how to do it. I did. And when I remembered my more carefree youth, I knew that I had to change the way I approached life because I missed being happy.
My search for happiness made me look for common characteristics of happy people so that I could incorporate them into my life.
The first thing I noticed is that I tried to put the needs of others before myself, and after some time I felt so drained that I had nothing left for anyone, not even myself. But by practicing self-care, taking care of myself I was full enough to take care of not only me, but many others around me. Self-care isn’t the same things as being selfish.
Money is not a top priority. When I remembered my brother’s words, I knew that while money is important as a means of exchange, it does not buy happiness. Happy people are generous and they give more because they know it brings more. Share a smile, you get many in return. But the whole point isn’t to do it for any kind of gain, but because it generates the energy of generosity and it feels good.
Happy people don’t worry too much about what other people think of them. The regard of others is important, but it does not control their lives. With this kind of approach to life, it is easy to manage your self-esteem and happy people have very high self-esteem.
And they do not lord things over others. No one is superior in the eyes of a very happy person. There is no judgment and only acceptance. What a refreshing change that is from most people who are unhappy, suffer from low self-esteem, and constantly practice judgment.
Try these behaviors out and see if you don’t feel happier as a result.