The term narcissist came from the Greek myth of Narcissus. He was handsome but rejected the romantic advances of the nymph, Echo. Narcissus fell in love with his reflection in the pool of water and would spend hours gazing at the image of himself.
In today’s world, a narcissist is someone who is very self-centered. The world revolves around them. If you stop and consider your friends and family you may recognize the traits. It might be a family member, a coworker, a friend.
If you have been involved romantically with a narcissist, you may have felt that it was your fault that you broke up. But your only fault is that you got involved with a narcissist in the first place. Learning to spot a narcissist will help you to protect yourself from further involvement with yet another one.
Here are a few traits that will help you to unveil a narcissist before you get too involved:
1. A narcissist almost never takes responsibility for a problem. They always have someone else they can blame.
2. They show very little emotion, especially during an argument. And they will also blame you for any emotional outburst. It is a form of abuse.
3. You feel drained when you are around them, but they seem to be energized when they are around you. That’s because you are the one who does all the planning, all the apologizing. You put the effort into trying to figure out what is wrong.
4. Narcissists are very charming, flirtatious, and have a very high opinion of themselves.
5. They are typically bad at handling money, drinking, drugs, their job, even in how they take care of their home.
6. Narcissists turn on you in a second. The instant you say something wrong, they lash out at you. Being around them is like walking on thin ice on a pond, wondering just when you’re going to break through and drown.
What do you do if you’re in a relationship with a narcissist? Leave them.
Unless they know what they are and wish to change, they won’t. You will lose every fight, feel drained emotionally and mentally after being with them. There is no good ending. Just tell yourself that you aren’t the problem. However, if you have been attracted to one narcissist, you might want to be very vigilant about whether or not your next relationship is with one as well.