We all have experienced hard times, and given the predictable nature of the universe, we will likely face them again in the future. Here are a few tips to help you prepare for those future hard times.
The first one is to accept a situation and deal with it or let it go. Seriously, either you can do something about the problem or you can’t. When you can’t, the only thing you can do is change your reaction to it. All that happens we we obsess or worry about the situation is make ourselves feel worse, waste precious energy and time.
The next is to determine if it is really a problem. Some days, life just seems hard. We feel as if every single thing we do is an effort. It could be we haven’t eaten or gotten enough sleep. Perhaps we are coming down with a cold. But the point is to notice when problems see to be a matter of perspective. Sometimes that which we see one day as a problem is merely a challenge on another day that will take us to greater heights in our own development as a person or in our career. It’s only a problem when we think it’s a problem.
An example of this is the way I perceive bad drivers. I recently moved from a relatively rural community to one of the ten largest cities in the U.S. Initially, every single time I drove in the car, I encountered “bad” drivers. Part of the problem was that I wasn’t accustomed to driving with so many people. I tried to deal with it by cussing out the other drivers. At first it made me feel better. But I realized I was losing one of my favorite activities.
Driving to an appointment or a class was one of the few opportunities I had to be alone with my thoughts, and I generally enjoy that occupation. It gives me time to think, to plan, to dream.
I had been wasting that precious alone time by focusing on the bad drivers around me. Once I released that as a “problem” for myself, my daily drives became pleasurable again. Sure, I still make a snide comment when I get cut off in traffic, but I swiftly move back into my “alone time” and driving in traffic no longer became a problem for me.