We spend way too much time and energy worrying about what other people think of us. If you can take the title of this article and develop it into a daily mantra for yourself, you’ll be doing well.
Sure, we all like to be liked. We want to be accepted by our friends, family, peers, coworkers. But many times there is nothing you can do to change what another person thinks of you. And by spending too much time and energy on those worries, you are stealing from yourself.
Here are a couple of suggestions to help you break the cycle of worrying about what others think of you and help you on the road of living your authentic life.
Try to figure out why you care so much about what a perfect stranger thinks of you. We’ve been trained from birth to be nice, be respectful, to be liked. We are even told through commercials which products to purchase in order to be part of the “in” crowd.
Social media is a perfect example of worthless worry. Somehow, life has become an everlasting popularity contest. “I have 692 friends!”
I don’t even KNOW 692 people well, and I certainly can’t call them all friends. Why do we worry about what those strangers think of us? It’s merely social conditioning, and you’ve now been given permission to stop doing it. The number of people whose opinions you care about should be much more easily managed.
When we try to please everyone, we end up pleasing no one. Ask any bride as she’s planning her wedding. Nearly every bride has uttered the words, “I tried to make everyone happy and now they’re all mad at me!” That’s because she spent too much time worrying about what others would think of her choices, and not focusing on the needs and desires of herself and her partner.
Trying to please other people simply empties us. We have no control over whether or not they will be happy with a decision we make. Why, then, do we stress so much over it? When something is outside of your control, it is really much better to just let it go. You can’t effect a difference anyway. You might as well feel better yourself. The end result will be the same regardless of what you do.
Learning to let go and be true to yourself may take some time. After all, we’ve been conditioned from birth to get other people to like us. And if you really do personally know and care what those 692 people on your social media think of you, then you may continue to try to please them, but if you’ve read this far, you now understand why you’ve been frustrated. Stop living your life for others and begin to live it for yourself.